A kink can be any sexual desire that is considered outside of the norm but often refers to BDSM, where one partner enjoys power over the other.

This power exchange can play out in many ways (bondage, impact play, roleplay scenarios, etc.) but the requirement for absolute consent means that either partner can stop playing at any time.

Kink can connect you to raw, wild feelings of desire while still honoring the trust and safety of a healthy relationship.

The Kinsey Institute surveyed over 4,000 American adults and found that 97% reported having sexual fantasies and 79% wanted to act on those fantasies in real life. In the end, less than a third ever took action - even though a majority of people were fantasizing about their current partner.

It’s so damn hard to open up, but when they actually did something about it, 92% of people said it went as good or better than they dreamed.

When I look at these numbers, I see a culture of shame that keeps a lot of people from true fulfillment.

Why is BDSM considered taboo if 25% of people are citing it as their favorite fantasy?

I grew up in a community that didn’t really talk about sex except to shame it, but I was branded a Jezebel long before I lost my virginity. Maybe they could sense my recurring dreams about being kidnapped by Jafar. I figured out quickly that I was going to have to forge my own path.

I gravitated toward electrically-charged romances, where the power dynamic drove the sexual tension. I wondered, why couldn’t real life be more like that?

It wasn’t until I got married that I fully emerged from my cocoon. With my husband, I experienced a sense of safety that empowered me to experiment with new flavors of submission.

I took what I learned writing romance novels, games, and erotic film shorts to create something playful, intimate, and romantic.

Something you could see yourself sharing with a partner on a Saturday night.

Kink can be a radical act of self care. Many sexually submissive women are quite dominant in their normal life. They run around with the world on their shoulders, putting a ton of pressure on themselves to keep it all together.

It’s incredibly powerful to have a space where you can let go and trust someone else enough to take the lead. A partner who can hold space for both your power and your vulnerability allows you to relax into the fullest version of yourself.

We create exciting submissive roles with opportunities for both partners to surprise and delight each other. Being submissive shouldn't put you on the sidelines.

And in case you prefer to play the other way, we created this guide.

Since desire often expresses itself through fantasy, we start with iconic tropes where there’s a clear power dynamic and an opportunity for sexual tension. We’re looking for classic pairings where the average couple is familiar with the broad strokes, but we still have room to innovate.

Our design philosophy is to make sure our players have everything they need to feel confident taking (or ceding) control in the bedroom - without overwhelming them or stifling their creativity.

For example, we have multiple character cards for each role, so people can really make it their own. We recognize that different partners may have different levels of experience, so we also include a starter adventure that focuses more on sensuality (with options to add kink and roleplay elements if desired).

To learn more about our approach, check out How To Play.

Saturday is often cited as the most common day of the week to have sex. It’s the first day of the weekend, and it may be the couple’s first chance to give each other focused attention.

We want to help people to see a kinky experience as a high point of their week, a special occasion that can become a regular part of their sex lives, and not something so intimidating.